If you want to know the truth, ask a child. Not only will you get the truth, you will get it in such a way as to make you laugh. Because kids are honest to a fault, and they have no filter, they say the darnedest things. Do not ever ask a child a question unless you are prepared to hear the absolute truth. Well, leave it to me to walk right into that trap.
A few days ago I mentioned to my therapist (of course I have one!) that I saw the cutest question and answer session between mother and child on my Facebook feed. Now, stick with me dear Readers, Facebook is not the focus here. I mentioned that a friend of mine had asked her two daughters a series of questions and posted both the questions and the answers as her status one day. There were 23 questions and answers. The questions were ordinary, mundane even: How do you know your mom loves you? What does your mom always say to you? What makes your mom happy? sad?, etc. The answers are anything but.
Of course, dear Readers, you can well imagine what a small child of 5 or 6 would come up with for answers. And true, they make us laugh. But check it out, what if an old broad, such as myself, were to ask her grown, adult children to answer these same questions? My therapist thought it would be a good idea.
At first, I didn’t quite understand what purpose it could serve. My children know what I do for a living and they know how old I am (mostly, lol). So what would be the point? That is why my therapist is the therapist, dear Readers, and I am the patient. “Send your children the questions and ask them to answer them and send them back to you. Once you read their answers, you will see yourself through their eyes. It might surprise you.” She was right.
I must admit that only my daughters completed the answers and sent them back (are you listening, my sons?). But, what an eye-opener. Here is who I am:
I am kind and funny. I am thoughtful and outgoing. I am loving and inspiring. I am a good mother.
Honestly, those conclusions were not surprising. I know, without conceit, that those adjectives do describe me. However, here are the two most surprising conclusions:
My children paid attention to our discussions and they believed what I told them!
I’m joking, of course. However, here are some heartfelt questions and answers that warmed my heart:
What is something that Mom always says to you? you will do great things, you will change the world, I want you to be better than me This is something I stressed to my children as they were growing up; I believed it and I hope they did, too.
What makes mom sad? Dishonesty, abandonment Wow! This one blew me away because not only is it true, but this is something I never told my children.
What makes you proud of your mom? Her honesty and strength I’m sure some would beg to differ on that first one, but there is no mistaking that second one ;-)
Finally, my favorite one was the same from each of my daughters. And although the answers were completely different, opposites even, they both go a long way in describing who I am..
If your mom were a character, who would she be? Betty Rizzo, Grease For those who are unfamiliar, Rizzo is tough and sarcastic and she doesn’t give a care what people think of her. She is definitely one tough broad. I love that description of me. It’s true. The other answer is also true.
If your mom were a character, who would she be?
I might be biased.. but I would say pooh bear.. he’s loving, accepting of all, a little anxious, and loves food
No explanation needed. Peace, ~v.