July 31, 2015
Here’s the thing, I’m a good person. However, I’m also the boogeyman. Let me explain. I have 23 nieces and nephews and with a few exceptions, I terrified them as children. No, not intentionally. However, they were scared of me. I’ve spent the better part of the past 20 years or so trying to figure it out, and I think I’ve got a handle on it.
I’ll use one of my nephews as an example. Lennon, not his real name, was completely intimidated by me when he was a small child. He would literally run screaming at the sight of me. Now, I was a bit demanding. I expected the children in my circles to be polite, respectful and to follow directions. I suppose I did scare them with my strong, gruff voice.
I will apologize to no one that I admonish children in a voice that sends shivers down most adults’ spines; it’s how I get the message across. For example, if I want little Lennon to stop running in the house with a fork because he might fall and put his eye out and then his dad, my brother, will pitch a fit, I’m not going to use my soft, gentle voice. My soft, gentle voice is reserved for the conveyance of all things soft and gentle. And little Lennon might not have understood my words, but he understood my tone. And make no mistake, my tone said, “Stop effing running in the house with a fork!”
Well dear Readers, Lennon is now in high school and he is an awesome young man. He is respectful, bright, and cool as heck! He no longer fears me. In fact, we have enjoyed each other’s company and we have had some awesome conversations. Kids his age love me. Here are some of the reasons why:
- I show them how much I love them
- I never take my love away
- I respect them first
- I am firm but fair
- They can trust me to not hurt them physically, emotionally and mentally
- I apologize when I am wrong
- I am cool like that
I’m not perfect. However, I’m perfectly me. I am an inspiration to anyone who hangs around me long enough. I see the potential in most human beings to be good people. So, if you have ever seen me as the boogeyman, give me another chance. I’m really quite inspirational, just ask Lennon. Peace, ~v.